So later in my dating years, I heard guys disparage the "needy" girls. Speaking the truth but also thinking it would make a guy comfortable, I would do the whole I-don't-need-a-guy spiel. What I didn't know then but I know now is: every girl suffers from Cinderella syndrome, y'know, where the guy rescues the vulnerable girl? Don't argue with me on this. Think of every chick flick and all those Disney movies. But here is the key part of the puzzle and the part that gets overlooked. GUYS suffer from the hero complex. They want to think they are saving the little lady. Super heroes, comic book characters, the list goes on and on. So I totally sabotaged myself by letting guys know that I didn't need saving. I hear guys say that want an independent woman but not sure if it is the truth. Independent to a point.
Here is the wisdom I hope to impart to you today ~~
everyone wants to be wanted,
everyone needs to be needed.
Learning the lesson way too late,I am,
SkitzoLeezra
2 comments:
There is a difference between an independent woman and one who lives in isolation.
There is also a difference between an independent woman and one who reminds me so often that she doesn't need me that I believe that she doesn't want me around at all.
I agree: Everyone wants to be wanted. Everyone needs to be needed. And, sometimes, they need to be saved too.
That could just be the hero talking, though.
John, I read your words and it scared me because I was afraid that we dated in the past.
I finally figured out you were talking about someone else. :-)
Thanks for sharing!
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