Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Not interested

Last week I was asked out on a date by a guy that I wasn't particularly attracted to. Mind you, it wasn't that he was physically unattractive, I have dated all sorts and don't have a "type". No, it just seemed this guy was a little too "small town" and not intellectually stimulating.

Anywho, I still have a problem turning down dates. You would think that I am at an age where I should have that down by now. How do you say "no thanks"? Instead, I use the same excuse I have used for years "I just started dating someone in (insert not too distant city here).

At a recent party, a woman said that she used to tell guys in bars that she was gay and asked if I ever used that trick. Gosh no! I was in bars to meet guys! In a small town, you don't want THAT floating around, especially if you are like me, single, over the typical coupling age, driving a truck and able to plunge your own toilet. People wonder about me already.

But back to subject at hand. Is it more kind to just smile and say "no thanks" or better to make up a white lie?


Karen said...

Unfortunately, most guys don't get the meaning of "no thanks" and you are forced to make something up.

Jordan said...

Lame. Just say "no thanks" and be nice about it. Guys aren't that stupid, and getting lied to as well as being turned down is literally adding insult to injury [well, disappointment].

P.S. If you do happen to be gay or dating someone, common sense dictates mentioning it within the context of the conversation when it becomes obvious the other party is interested in you, and spare him/her a little humiliation.

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