Wednesday, October 07, 2009
My gift to society: No Skitzo Leezra spawn
I gotta a lot of grief from the time I was 17 years old because I vowed to never have children. Very few believed me and only a couple women agreed or gave me the respect for my decision. It irked me that folks would always say, "Oh, you'll change your mind." Like I didn't know myself better than they did. My gyno refused to discuss tying my tubes. He said, "There is no way I can discuss sterilization of a female with no children. Besides, who knows? Maybe next year you'll join a cult where your responsibility is to pro-create." He was trying to funny but I was appalled. My health insurance wouldn't cover birth control pills but it did pay for pregnancy and delivery. WTF?
At my class reunion, I really felt like a circus freak because so many folks asked if I (ever) married? No. Then asked how many children I had? What???! My reply became, "None that I know about." Lots of confused faces that day.
When I turned 40, it was such a relief to finally be the age that folks let it go. (Maybe by then, they know me well enough to know my parenting would be a disaster.)
Now it is so amusing to have men and women reveal to me that if they could do it all over again, they would be childless. It shocked me the first time but now I just put on my best Mona Lisa smile and don't judge.
Doing unto the others and all.